Domestic Violence Issue

[amritha2002]

Hi friends,
I have one misdemeanour domestic violence case charged but not sentenced or convicted.
My lawyer says second time , if I have a minor case also, I will be deported to india.
Is it true?.

[amritha2002]

Please advice , I am going to India next month.I need anyone who has experience

[ek_bechara]

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[texcan]

ek_bechara,

go easy, its understood that your emotions are running high here; but donot be judgemental based on one line.

I am against domestic voilence, and condemn all acts of voilence; but who know what situation circumstance, and even what was it all about. Donot do the same think which you are condeming.

Please be patient, and gentle...lead by example.

amritha2002,

cant suggest anything here, do consult attorney and try to pacify situation.
We all have one life, and can make heaven of hell right here based on our actions. Try to make peace , and no voilence.

[wandmaker]

Originally Posted by amritha2002

Hi friends,
I have one misdemeanour domestic violence case charged but not sentenced or convicted.
My lawyer says second time , if I have a minor case also, I will be deported to india.
Is it true?.

Dont search for answers on "what to do, if there is a second time DV?" and its ripple effects - Change your attitude, control your 'SELF' and take a pause when there is a disagreement. I am against DV of any kind (including verbose)

[reddymjm]

Originally Posted by amritha2002

Hi friends,
I have one misdemeanour domestic violence case charged but not sentenced or convicted.
My lawyer says second time , if I have a minor case also, I will be deported to india.
Is it true?.

If you are not a citizen, for sure after serving Time you will be deported. But please think over it if you really want to serve time. It will be a living hell. Watch any of the Jail programs on TV.

[chanduv23]

Originally Posted by albertpinto

first of all are you a lady hitting your husband ..that is obnoxious and all men are against it (In Delhi they have a organization for harassed husbands) ..ur username sounds like a girls name.
most likely your lawyer is correct ..DV is very serious .. people cannot hit each other in any circumstance and are supposed to seek divorce. which seems correct.
actually hands are considered a weapon ..which is correct too.
especially they will take this all the more seriously for immigrants (i.e. no leeway for immigrants).
my suggestion is keep yr spouse happy ..try to find out what the issues are and try to keep him/her happy.

You nailed it. Domestic issues are very common in every household - it must not lead to violence and must be sorted out by positive methods. Do not seek external guidance on personal matters - outsiders opinions and influence will rub shoulders in wrong ways and it will mess up your life.

[chnaveen]

Nothing is going to stop in USA because of a Case in India unless until you are convicted. But there is a chance that you may get an RFE on an y pending Case and you should provide the details of the Case and also show them the truth behind the DV case in India. If you really are not at the wrong end, then show them the proofs. You should have a good lawyer if needed.

[chnaveen]

Originally Posted by chanduv23

You nailed it. Domestic issues are very common in every household - it must not lead to violence and must be sorted out by positive methods. Do not seek external guidance on personal matters - outsiders opinions and influence will rub shoulders in wrong ways and it will mess up your life.

What ever Chanduv23 said is very true, if you try to seek external guidance, then it will really mess up the life.

[Leo07]

I'm not against any lawyer or group. Just that your situation will be better understood by a desi attorney as he/she may have/had experience with law back home.

You need to look into at least the following aspects:
1. Not to get screwed here if you are innocent.( That can happen ).
2. Not to get deported for no/minimal wrong of yours. Immigration help
3. Not to get screwed in India...which is more than likely to happen if you escape 1

I think a Desi attorney(Not ABCD) can direct you in all three matters.


Guys,

It's none of our business to interpret and be Judgemental on amritha2002. He/She asked for a help on immigration matter, if we can help, we should.

The least we could do is to Not-add salt to the injury.

My 2 cents...

[reddog]

Why are we drawing conclusions.
I know of husbands filing false cases throughout the world to ruin their spouses lives. 'tali hamesha do haath se bajti hai'.
But then, the OP is here for suggestions on his case, not on how he should lead his life.

If a DV case is filed, it needs to be resolved asap.

look at effects of other offences on immigration. a lawyer shold be able to guide you better.
Please share your experience on the outcome.

Just cos a DV case was registered against you does not mean you did it.
However, even a case being registered can jeopardize your immigrant/non-immigrant situation.

Every problem has a solution. You have to look for the right one.

Originally Posted by albertpinto

first of all are you a lady hitting your husband ..that is obnoxious and all men are against it (In Delhi they have a organization for harassed husbands) ..ur username sounds like a girls name.
most likely your lawyer is correct ..DV is very serious .. people cannot hit each other in any circumstance and are supposed to seek divorce. which seems correct.
actually hands are considered a weapon ..which is correct too.
especially they will take this all the more seriously for immigrants (i.e. no leeway for immigrants).
my suggestion is keep yr spouse happy ..try to find out what the issues are and try to keep him/her happy.

[feedfront]

My friend has similar case, though I don't know in details what questions were asked at port of entry. But his family travels with him all time.

The immigration/DV agency will keep an eye on your life (whenever you fill out any application). They don't want to slip any case unnoticed.

If you guys are still living together (common address in applications will prove that) and there is no repeat of such act (officially) then you would have normal life. Govt takes common residence address as evidence that things are going ok with you guys.

But, again at every port of entry your landing will take little bit of extra time as your record will pop up with this info. If possible, travel to foreign country with your spouse so that at the port of landing they would notice that past is past.

Whenever there is criminal record check (whether for new job, or landing etc.), these things will pop up. They may ask you few indirect questions on your family life.

Good Luck!

[pointlesswait]

why were you not sentenced? did he withdraw the case? or is the case still pending!

also....laws prohibit local law enforcement from disclosing immigration status to the feds. ..

Originally Posted by albertpinto

first of all are you a lady hitting your husband ..that is obnoxious and all men are against it (In Delhi they have a organization for harassed husbands) ..ur username sounds like a girls name.
most likely your lawyer is correct ..DV is very serious .. people cannot hit each other in any circumstance and are supposed to seek divorce. which seems correct.
actually hands are considered a weapon ..which is correct too.
especially they will take this all the more seriously for immigrants (i.e. no leeway for immigrants).
my suggestion is keep yr spouse happy ..try to find out what the issues are and try to keep him/her happy.

[ScratchingHead]

Originally Posted by amritha2002

Hi friends,
I have one misdemeanour domestic violence case charged but not sentenced or convicted.
My lawyer says second time , if I have a minor case also, I will be deported to india.
Is it true?.

You scumbag, you have no place in a decent society, you low-life piece of garbage. You had the nerve to come here to this forum and ask how to overcome a wrongdoing???? You expected everybody would watch in silence and give you advice....let me know where you live...i would not blink a second to complaint to police since you are premeditating to cause a DV again...

[reddymjm]

Guys cool down. He or she should have spent atleast one night in Jail. The qucikest bail would have kept him/her in Jail for atleast one night.By now s/he would know how that night was. S/he would never do that again.

The public prosecutor would have given him/her enough. or if S/he had his/her own Lawyer, would have already sucked enough money from him/her.

S/He was just checking if s/he will be deported.

Lets end the thread here as this is not the motive of IV.